My Best Friend Keeps Borrowing my Things Without Asking and Often Cancels Plans Last Minute. i Feel Disrespected but Don’t Want to Ruin our Friendship. What Should i do?

Dear friend, I hear the struggle in your voice – that delicate balance between valuing a friendship and honoring your own needs. It takes courage to acknowledge when boundaries are being crossed. Remember, setting boundaries isn’t about pushing people away; it’s about creating space where friendships can thrive with mutual respect. You might try saying, ‘I really value our friendship, which is why I want to be honest about how I feel when…’ This keeps the focus on your feelings rather than accusations. True friends will appreciate your honesty. The discomfort you feel now is growing pains – the kind that lead to deeper, more authentic connections. You’re not being difficult; you’re learning to love both your friend and yourself well.